“You complete me.”
Eto ang linya ng mga taong ang favorite breakup
song ay “I can’t live...if living is
without you...” ni Celine Dion. Or kapag patriotic, switch sila to
April Boy Regino’s “Hindi ko kayang mabuhay sa mundo...kung mawawala ka...sa piling ko....”
Haaay, marami na nang mga kanta, kuwento at tulang nahabi tungkol
sa mga taong hindi maka-move on with their life after silang madevastate ng
pag-ibig. At siguro nga, hindi magiging cliché ang ganitong kadramahan
kasi hanggat may pusong marunong magmahal, may pusong masasaktan once natunaw
na ang Cloud Nine na kinatutungtungan nila.
Pero ibang level pa rin ang symptoms ng “You Complete Me” bug.
Dahil dito maraming kabataang katatapos lang ata dumede ay
excited na agad magka-dyowa. Maraming shungaers din ang pilit tinitiis
ang kanilang jerk boyfriend even if they know they are doomed to a miserable
relationship. This is the reason why some people think it’s the end of the
world kung wala silang kaholding-hands kaya wala pang isang oras after mabasted
or makipag-break eh go na sila sa back-up plan nila.
They fall into that dark pit because they desperately wanted
someone they can whisper the words “You complete me” to – which at the onset
can be a compliment, but in reality is actually the biggest, fattest lie you
can tell to someone you love (or think you love.)
Many people are so afraid of being alone that they think once
they can find someone na pupuno sa missing part ng kanilang pagkatao, sasaya na sila ever after. Feel nila character sila sa
isang fairytale na magically magta-transform ang buhay if a dashing prince in a white horse will
save them from their miserable existence.
And they kept waiting, and waiting, and kapag
impatient na, susugal na sila sa trial and error relationships. Parang raffle
lang na the more entries, the greater chances of winning ang peg nila. They equate their happiness to finding their One True Love.
Kaso, ang malupit na katotohanan, kahit matagpuan mo na ang
Perfect Person na makakasatisfy ng 1000 mong non-negotiables, hindi mo pa rin makakamit ang happiness kung
hindi mo natutunang maging masaya noong wala pa siya.
Sabi ng isang quote “If you are not happy being single, you will
never be happy in a relationship. Get your own life and love it first. Then
share it. Love when you're ready. Not when you're lonely.”
Yes, kahit pa soulmate mo siya.
So kung naghahanap ka lang ng someone to fill that hollowness inside you, then you’re headed for a rocky relationship ala Kennon Road. Kasi
lagi kang maghahanap ng isang bagay na kailanman ay hindi mapupunan ng One True
Love mo. May sparks and fireworks sa umpisa, but the sadness inside you will
soon ruin something that could have been beautiful.
Yun siguro narealize ni Barbie, kaya you rarely see her
with Ken (Ken who?) anymore. Look at her now, blooming ang solo career ng lola niyo.
Inggit lang nina Cinderella at other Disney princesses na nipped in the bud na
agad ang beauty.
Seriously speaking, that probably fuelled Maria Shriver to give Arnold Z. the boot, because she had a healthy dose of self-love and
self-respect.
Look at Pia Magalona and Graça Machel. They are proof that
your beloved may have passed away, but despite the pain, life goes on.
Kasi happiness is not about finding your one true love, but
about finding your one true self. Love yourself first because you cannot give
something you do not have. Huwag ka rin mamalimos ng pagmamahal, kasi puwede mo namang ma-feel ang love from your family and friends, at syempre, especially from God (the only one we can
truthfully declare “You complete me” to.)
Happiness is appreciating your blessings along the way,
whether it includes a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
Mamaya, because of the tears you are shedding for
the one who has left or for the one who has not yet come, na-blur na vision mo
for the ones who remain. Sa pag-atungal mo sa sandakot na blessing na nawala
(buti kung blessing nga), hindi mo napansin ang kaban-kabang biyayang meron ka
pa.
Forget fairytales. You do not need someone to complete you kasi hindi ka naman manananggal noh.
You just have to get a life, that's all.
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